hey guys i just posted and i rememberd, to update you guys on whats going on.
Well after a little over a month and 1 week we have to let my brother go. he's been absolutely misserable and isn't eating at all, hes been going threw comatose states because of some spinal injery that the docters didn't know he had untill 2 weeks ago... we all appreciate that you guys have prayed for him and we really do thank you for it... but he's in way to much pain to be with us anymore, we are letting him go on saterday and he wants to be let go... hes in way to much pain.
We have desided to celebrate his life instead of morne, we love him alot and his life was short but we need to be happy about his life and not depressed, i've been in many classes lately to deal with this and its helping me alot, thats why i can say this stuff with out wattering up... we really do thnak you guys...
thanks anon... but guys i'm not tellin you guys this to be sad, i want you to be happy with me on this. he's happy he is going, not sad. its sad that he has to go so early but celebrate what he lived, and love how he lived. im not in denile about this, im being honest.. don't pray and wish for him to feel better and hope that he feels better, pray that he will live as happy up there as he did down here, i'll always be happy i have faith in that
My bro just happened across the fol somewhere online & just emailed it 2 me - though it may be too late 4 ur bro it can help u deal with ur problem .....>>>>>
\b(READ THIS. LET IT REALLY SINK IN. THEN CHOOSE. John is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood and always has something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, "If I were any better, I would be twins!"
He was a natural motivator.
If an employee was having a bad day, John was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.
Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up and asked him, "I don't get it!
You can't be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?"
He replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to myself, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or ... you can choose to be in a bad mood.
I choose to be in a good mood.
Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or...I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it.
Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or... I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life.
"Yeah, right, it's not that easy," I protested.
"Yes, it is," he said. "Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people affect your mood.
You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It's your choice how you live your life."
I reflected on what he said. Soon hereafter, I left the Tower Industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it.
Several years later, I heard that he was involved in a serious accident, falling some 60 feet from a communications tower.
After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, he was released from the hospital with rods placed in his back.
I saw him about six months after the accident.
When I asked him how he was, he replied, "If I were any better, I'd be twins.
Wanna see my scars?"
I declined to see his wounds, but I did ask him what had gone through his mind as the accident took place.
"The first thing that went through my mind was the well-being of my soon-to-be born daughter," he replied. "Then, as I lay on the ground, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live or...I could choose to die. I chose to live."
"Weren't you scared? Did you lose consciousness?" I asked.
He continued, "..the paramedics were great.
They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the ER and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read 'he's a dead man'. I knew I needed to take action."
"What did you do?" I asked.
Well, there was a big burly nurse shouting questions at me," said John. "She asked if I was allergic to anything. 'Yes, I replied.' The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breath and yelled, 'Gravity'."
Over their laughter, I told them, "I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead."
He lived, thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude... I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully.
Attitude, after all, is everything.
Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. (Matthew 6:34)
After all, today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday.
wow rovin... thanks... thats so true... like seriouesly thats what life is... tomorrow we are letting him go, its not that he has chosen this, its that his pain, his brain damage and internal injuries have made this to hard. the spinal insodent was the last straw for him, he wants to move on and "listen to the best system in the world" as he put it when i told him about you guys and all that you guys do for him. we all thank you very much, and honestly love you guys for it, well at least i do...
hey nolimit,i admire you for being so calm and in control and still functioning after all thats happened.....i wish u a great life and ur bro a great afterlife and may he be the happiest hes ever been and free from what hes goin through right now.....peace bro
